You completeMe

You complete Me

Romantic words that make your heart flutter, and arguably, the biggest crock of shit ever vocalized as the holy grail in the name of love! So what do these words really mean? Let the indulgence begin …

When we tell someone “you complete me,” we’re essentially saying – you need them. Without them, you are incomplete; they make you whole and give you purpose. They, and they alone, make you happy and you cannot live without them.

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As recipients of these heart-melting words, here’s what we hear – I matter! I am needed and desired. With billions of people on this planet, you are choosing me; I am special. I am the source and reason for your happiness. My existence in this universe matters to someone.

Somewhere in our journey, we accepted the premise that as individuals, we are not enough. We need to find that one special someone who will make us whole again. Until then, we are incomplete as we are!

We picked up on this jewel through fairy tales, movies, and song lyrics, among many sources. Both consciously and subconsciously, they weave their influence over time. This message is further enforced by our friends, family and even co-workers, as they become obsessed with playing cupid.

This begs the question, why have we accepted that we are not whole as individuals, just as we are? The answer is frightening – FEAR!


Whether we admit it or not, one of our biggest fears is that of being alone. We are afraid of being alone today, tomorrow, and especially in our old age. While this may be one of our biggest fears, it is also not the only one.

Do any of these possibly resonate with you? – fear of rejection, fear of not being desired or good enough, fear of not fitting into societal norms, fear of never being loved and cared for, fear of not being able to experience life with someone, fear of loss or abandonment, fear of … the list is endless.

Somewhere in our ingenious brains, we figured out the perfect solution to our fears and problems – find that special someone! That will fix everything.

Dealing with our inner demons and fear is too painful. So we go to great lengths to avoid confronting this pain. We go on a quest to search for our Princess or Prince Charming, who serve as temporary distractions to appease our insecurities and pain.

The truth is you didn’t solve the problem at the root of the issue. You only made it worse by involving another person to your problem, who more than likely has their own demons that they are running away from.

We attract what we are ready for.


Let’s dig deeper to understand what “You complete me” actually means.

We are essentially telling our lucky loving recipient that since they are the source of your happiness, they are now responsible for our happiness. If you are unhappy, it’s because they did something wrong; they didn’t make an effort to make us feel loved or special, especially on occasions like our birthday or Valentine’s Day. It’s their responsibility to make sure that you don’t feel insecure; that you feel loved and cared for at all times; and that they will never leave you.

Both parties agree to deliver on these expectations because it meets both of their insecurities and needs. But if you can’t love yourself, then how can anyone else love you? If you can’t enjoy your own company, then how can anyone else?

We are essentially setting ourselves up for failure; and when the relationship fails, we find ourselves perplexed. Duh!!! No shit! And if that’s not enough, we then simply rinse and repeat.

The root of the problem is that we don’t feel whole and complete within ourselves.

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Perhaps it’s time we question our approach to love. We are looking for love in all the wrong places. Love isn’t hidden in the recesses of online dating websites or the remote jungles of Africa. Love is much closer than we think.

You should be looking for you!

In our quest to find love, the first step is the hardest step – Dealing with your own fears. If you choose not to deal with your pain, it doesn’t make your pain go away; you can run, but you can’t hide from yourself. Running away only compounds your pain and fears over time. And the more you delay, the harder you make it for yourself. It’s your choice!

If you are bold, daring and courageous enough to face your fears, an entire new world will be there to greet you at the receiving end. When you choose to confront your fears and resolve those painful issues, you will begin to experience love like no other – Love for yourself.

This love allows you to accept all of you, as you are – the good, the bad and the ugly. And when you accept yourself wholeheartedly, you don’t need acceptance, love or validation from anyone else on this planet. Your love for yourself is abundant and fulfilling.

You are whole. 

You are the source of your own happiness!

When you love yourself wholeheartedly, you will be ready to welcome life regardless of how it unfolds – you know that you will be happy whether alone in your own company, or if you choose to experience life with someone else who is also whole.

Published: February 11, 2017

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